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judgement or "you ought toos and you shoulds."
It's like the symphony director said when he was asked, "how do you get to Carnegie Hall?" He said, "practice."
Something that is even more difficult to do is to listen to someone when It's uncomfortable to do so. When there are conflicts or resentments in a relationship that haven't been dealt with yet,hollister, there is an emotional charge that is present and that makes it difficult to stay focused on the present moment. In that time you're not really focused on the other person andwhat he or she is saying. You are focused on your emotions or your attempts to avoid pain.
So,air jordan pas cher, how do you really listen--without judgement or coming from your own agenda?
It's also difficult to take the time to listen without allowing distractions to pull you away from what the other person is saying. It doesn't even matter if the person you are listening to is baring their soul or not,mulberry outlet, It's incredibly important to stay present, interested and focused on that person.
One of the most difficult things to do in relationship is to listen--truly listen from your heart without blame,louboutin pas cher, judgement or "you ought toos and you shoulds."
Sometimes the greatest gift you can give someone is to just listen with your heart. So practice listening and coming from love in your relationships. When you do, we know you'll see a difference--one you'll really enjoy!
How many times have you been talking to someone and they reach around to tuck in a loose tag that's hanging off your shirt or pick a loose thread off your sweater right in the middle of your conversation?
Start with focusing your attention on the check-out person at the grocery store or the waiter or waitress at your favorite restaurant,hollister. Engage them in a short conversation and REALLY listen to what they have to say,ray ban. When you get brave you can try a family member with whom you have some unhealed issues,hollister uk.
Another difficult situation is when you have preconceived prejudices and judgements of the person. Our judgements build walls even in the healthiest of relationships. When you are trying to listen to someone with whom there have been challenges,hollister, it requires you to listen with unconditional love in that moment. That doesn't mean you have to agree with everything they say. But, it does mean forgetting yourself and your issues while they are talking. We are so quick to rush in and prove we are right, that all we do is create more distance.
All of us want to feel loved,louboutin pas cher, respected and honored. And one way we have found to have this is to love, respect and honor someone else. We found that listening without interrupting the other shows respect and also builds trust. What a simple concept, but how hard it is to do.
This might seem like a trivial thing but what it really says is that in that moment they weren't listening to what you were saying. They were thinking about that loose tag or thread and how they could fix it.
Practice by listening without needing to respond from your frame of reference. Hear what they have to say from their point of view. It's amazing what can be healed when you do this. As Stephen Covey points out in his book,abercrombie, The seven habits of Highly effective people,mulberry, it's important to seek first to understand,louboutin, then be understood. When you do this the walls and defenses crumble and healing can take place.
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